Patrick Renna was twelve years old when he played Hamilton "Ham" Porter in The Sandlot — the kid who loved baseball not because of tryouts or travel teams or showcase tournaments, but because it was summer and the game was fun and his friends were there.
More than thirty years later, Renna is a baseball dad himself. And in a conversation with USA TODAY's Steve Borelli, he reflected on what that movie got right about youth sports — and what today's sports culture gets exactly wrong.
Renna's message for sports parents is simple: your job is to keep the experience enjoyable. Not to coach from the stands. Not to debrief every at-bat on the drive home. Not to project your own athletic dreams onto your kid. Just to be there, be supportive, and let the game be the game.
"The ride home should be about getting ice cream, not about what they did wrong."
One of Renna's clearest pieces of advice: don't coach from the sideline. Kids can hear everything. When parents shout instructions during play, it creates a second voice in a child's head at exactly the moment they need to be fully present in the game. Cheer. Encourage. But let the coaches coach.
The kids in that movie played because they loved it. There were no parents watching. No standings. No travel fees. Just a field, a ball, and the pure joy of the game. Renna isn't suggesting we eliminate organized sports — but he is suggesting we ask whether we've organized the joy right out of it.
Patrick Renna spoke with USA TODAY's Steve Borelli as part of the ongoing Coach Steve column on youth sports and parenting.
By Steve Borelli — USA TODAY
Published July 5, 2026 · Curated from USA TODAY
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